婚姻 The Marriage

 

 

今天看到一段话说                                           

婚姻

是你这辈子唯一一次亲自选择家人。

 

你想和什么样的人牵手走完这一生

就找什么样的人

总有一天你会明白

经济基础固然重要

但更重要的是一个人的

教养，担当，责任心，控制情绪的能力

以及说话方式和处事态度 。

 

结婚的意义就是

 万家灯火，有一盏灯为你而留

而不是鸡飞狗跳有你一个。

 

伴侣真的很重要

晚一点没关系

但一定得是对的人

因为他是你后半辈子里的光。

I saw a saying today

Marriage

is the only chance in your life that you can personally choose your family member.

Look for the person whom you want to be with for the rest of your life

One day, you will understand

Economic foundation is of course important

But more importantly is a person's

upbringing, sense of responsibility, the ability to control emotions

speaking manners and attitude.

The meaning of marriage is

when you go back home at night, a light is lid up for you.

Partner is really important

It is fine to find a partner late

But make sure you found the right one

because you are going to spend the rest of your life with him/her.

Kapit: A land of Serenity

I just came back from Kapit 2 days ago.

I went there for relieving, for a very short period - 5 days 4 nights. Stayed in hospital staff quarters (the conventional wooden house) with a housemate. She is there relieving for 2 weeks in Hospital Kapit. I am grateful to be blessed with a kind-hearted and caring companion.

Departed from Sibu at around 7.30am in the morning by bus, reached Kapit at 10.30am. Only recent years, Kapit is accessible by road. Previously people use to travel to Kapit by boat. The road is not bad, a bit roller coaster though due to the hilly landscape. I passed by Kanowit and Song before reaching Kapit.

Kapit is filled with fresh and cool air in the morning,

It has a slower pace of life,

Friendly atmosphere and people,

And everywhere is within walking distance.

I started off my work there with dabai - a black olive, uniquely found only in Sarawak. They told me it was nice and the nurses managed to made me tried one. However, I can't appreciate the tastiness of dabai because I am not a fan of it. Also, I got to know that you can actually eat the dabai seeds as well.

I had 3 days of durian eating marathon which made me wonder if I was there for relieving or weight gaining programme. The durian there is nicer than those I got in Sibu. As for the food here, simply delicious. It fits well with my taste buds. 

Thank God that all the obstetrics and gynecological patients were relatively well and stable there during my visit. Overall, I will say that it was a good and eye-opening experience. In term of patient's management, I need to take into consideration of their logistic issues and the limitation. I feel pity for the patients there, most of the time they need to travel for 3 hours to get the access for certain healthcare facilities in Sibu Hospital. 

My first visit to Kapit was in 2014, that time I didn't managed to enjoy anything because I had a very bad food poisoning back then. Lastly, I made some new friends there. During the last day after church, my housemate and church friends brought me to have a walk around Kapit. You only need a few hours to explore around as it is a small town. The only place that I didn't manage to go is the Kapit wharf. Perhaps, next round!

What a short getaway from the hustle and bustle of my routine daily life. Thank you for the hospitality & fellowship, till then!

Still find this wooden house unique, hence, it deserves a shot!

The bustling Teresang market, rich with durian and dabai.

人要有梦想

人要有梦想，

也要有为梦想付出的努力

当我们渐渐长大

你就会发现生活会有很多挫折和无奈。

每当你要放弃的时候，

不妨想想那些相信你可以的人。

付出会有收获

但你不知道这收获何时会来

你只有坚持到底

当黎明的曙光划破黑暗的那一刻。。。

梦想，也可以很简单。

#上帝的恩典够用

The Little Happiness 小幸福

I met a man, my best friend. 

    Let's rewind from where we began. I remember, first time going out with him to Honey Lemon Cafe. He came with a Christmas gift - one set of "Thermos" brand lunch box. One of the dishes we ordered was mashed potato. We didn't finish it because there was lots of MSG in it!

    Even when I was already in a relationship with him, it took me a long time before I told myself, yes, he is the one! I prayed to God for a man after God's heart because I know that other good characters will come into the place following that. To my surprise, God blessed me more than what I asked for! 

    During early days, when I was still emotionally immature, I was the one who always threw a tantrum at him. However, every time, he will talk to me nicely. Now, he has the ability to sense the aura before my volcano exploded for no reason. Probably my PMS, haha. More communication between us improves our relationship and nowadays I have no chance to be angry because he handled it so well, pampered me just like how my mum did! 

    Last time, I can start a fight just by bringing up an issue "why is he paying all the meals". Why so chauvinistic?! However, as times go by, I drowned in this blessing; his provision. Happiness can be as simple as that. There was once he brought my cousins and I out to McD; he secretly slipped two pieces of RM100 note to me to pay for our meal. It proved that my initial thought of his chauvinism was wrong. He is ok with me (a lady) paying... but with his money. He is a man with strong principle but at the same time he will he always listened to me and included me in all the discussion. Throughout this journey, we also learnt to agree to disagree and we appreciate our differences.

    Understanding is very important in every relationship. My mum's initial worried that "a non medical background boyfriend will not be able to understand my hectic working life" is not an issue at all. I will said that he knows lots of medical stuff. He is willing to listen to all my stories and he picked up the medical jargon very fast. He can tell you what is intubation, CPR, caesarean section and etc.

    We have gone through lots of ups and downs together. There was once we knelt down before God to ask for His healing hands. Whatever that we have gone through, made both us appreciate each other even more and we clearly know that simple companion is a type of happiness too. Together we laughed, together we cried. 

    We always talked about our faith and dreams, we may plan but eventually God is the ultimate planner. We have to just submit ourselves to Him. We also shared our perspective on family, financial etc. It is magnificent when your partner shared the same vision and dream with yours!

25/12/2021

从前，他问我喜欢怎么样的钻戒，

我随口说了一句：简单就好。但香港戏里男主角求婚的戒子盒都是有灯的，好特别啊。

哈哈，真给你找到了。

谢谢你每一时，每一刻对我的细心。

谢谢你在平淡中，坚定的爱我。也不时的给我小惊喜。

你真正的在意，从来都是以行动表达出来。

爱情可以很简单，

这就是我所谓的“小幸福”。

我为此，感谢神！

Another good memory added!

Finally, yesterday was my last day of deployment in COVID medical ward 1. They parked all the stable O&G patients here. It was a great experience. I enjoyed working here. Having a team of very helpful and funny nurses, hardworking colleagues and a very awesome specialist. 

Nurses as usual, play an important role in a team. Most of the things they are willing to help you, such as blood taking, putting on CBD etc. One of the incident that I will never forget was: my nurses stayed back with me in the COVID ward to accompany a 6 years old kid, while waiting for the kid's uncle to come and fetch her. 3 of us tried our best to calm the kid, she was crying because her mum was transferred to a more acute ward. 

Next, I am working with a bunch of hardworking colleagues. Everyday, we will try to settle all our job lists as soon as possible. Having a good teamwork make the job much more easier. 

Lastly, I have a good, very motivating and cheerful boss. Dr Elora. She is very approachable, considerate and always readily available to help. Really grateful to work under her guidance. She cares a lot about her patients and we can always update her on the patients' condition, despite after office hours. It was indeed a blessing to work with a nice boss. 

This covid ward is closing down soon, the number of cases are reducing. Really hope that things will go back to near normal, soon.

the nurse accompanying the little girl

farewell luncheon with colleagues

                                                     

my last day in ward 1, thank you everyone

 

Life is as fragile as it can be

During my last oncall, I was so busy. I transferred out a total of 3 patients who deteriorated. In the end, one passed away, one remained in acute COVID ward and one went into the COVID ICU.

One of the uncle, before he was transferred out, he quickly called his assistant and sold all his stocks. He then gave a last call to all his children. Unfortunately, all of them were not in Sibu. 

Another middle age uncle, his condition was the worst. His daughter, who was tested positive followed him to the acute ward. Unfortunately, he couldn't make it through. I got the news in the next morning that, he passed away.

Lastly, an aunty with a 6 years old daughter. The aunty's condition deteriorated too in the ward. We sent her off, leaving the daughter behind, whom will followed her uncle back home to continue home quarantine. The daughter cried so badly, she wanted to go back with her mum. It was a very heart breaking moment. My nurses and I, we accompanied her in the COVID ward. All of us, including other COVID patients felt sad seeing her, kept comforting her. She is 6 years old, she knows what happened. 

Life is as fragile as it can be. This COVID-19 is bad, you never know how fast it can "eat" you. That is why sometimes I will take an effort to help the COVID patients to video call their kids, you never know when is the last goodbye. Therefore, please continue to take care out there, peeps!

Lonely Death due to COVID-19

Day 4: Yesterday, the son of Madam L called the hospital and asked me how's the mother's condition. I told him that she is not doing well. The next day when I went to work, I got to know that Madam L passed away already at 9pm the night before. It was quite a lonely death, whereby the family cannot go in and see her, be with her at her very last few hours in this world.

Oncall: We have one new patient, Madam T, 78 years old with underlying hypertension, dyslipidemia (high cholesterol) and diabetes mellitus. She contracted the COVID-19 infection from her husband. He was admitted to another COVID ward, his condition was more severe. Inside my ward, she refused all the oxygen support. She was very aggressive, she told us that she would rather die than getting the oxygen supplication. During my oncall, I went in to see the patient, she is already unconscious by that time. Managed to talk to her that, "Jesus is son of God, He died for your sin, He can save you. Trust him and you will be saved." 

    12 hours later, at around 6am, I was informed by the nurse that she passed away. I pronounced death to her family members over the phone and signed her death certificate. It is an indescribable feeling, people just left, one by one due to COVID-19. The day I was oncall, there was 11 deaths due to COVID in the hospital, and another 3 brought in dead, tested COVID positive too.